Sometimes the way that grown-ups shout "I'M IN CHARGE I'M IN CHARGE" is by withholding information and shooting down the contributions of everyone around.
Remember what Carse says: performatively low status is an anti-title. To play at being below everything, to posit a conspicuous absence, is the same move as playing above everything.
There is something really amazing here about the anti-title theatricality that happen in social media these days. I have to speak gnomically because a lot of these performances are wedged really expertly between cherished social practices. But it is fascinating if you know what to watch.
"it's called BOUNDARIES sweaty and it means you have to do what I say"