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You have an acquaintance you've hung out with a few times. Each time the vibes have been really nice. It seems they're going through a tough time.

How many times do you think you *should* reach out without a response from them? The reachings-out can be arbitrarily far apart.

Exact same premise as above except they agree to requests to hang out and seem like they have a genuinely good time, thank you afterwards, etc.

But they never initiate text convos or hangouts, and often leave you on read. They mention depression. What *should* you do?

short answer time:

if you voted "meta-talk", how would you bring it up?

"are you getting something positive out of me reaching out regularly *or* is it nice having the option to be able to reply?" sounds really petty if the tone is read incorrectly, but it's the question i want answered as the reacher-out

Now we reverse the POV!

(Poll in next tweet)

You're having a rough one over the course of a few months. During that, you hang out with a new friend. You are signaling engagement and enjoyment. You thank them for taking the time to hang out and say you enjoyed it.

Over the next few weeks, you drop out of conversation a lot. You don't initiate hangouts or convos. How would you want them to handle this?

Ideally, they would:

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