i think all of the people not getting why this happens don’t realize that porn behaviorally trains you to connect dissociation and sexual pleasure. like, the fact that it’s taking attention *away* from the fact of the real life presence of the person is kind of the point
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RT @thechosenberg
Smh
https://twitter.com/thechosenberg/status/1642670661142282241
it’s helpful for his enjoyment to be less present, not more
obviously not endorsing this, i think it’s an issue, but i haven’t seen anyone mention it or discuss it in a useful way in the replies
the looking at pics of the other party is a kind of compromise between years spent looking at porn on your phone while experiencing pleasure, and also genuinely wanting to feel the connection. it’s, in a way, kind, and also unfortunate
also fwiw i think her reaction is extreme. it’s the kind of behavior that exacerbates these dissociative habits