so i think the actual story here was "we were somehow missing an entire parallel grapevine for reporting sexual assault allegations among EAs, targeted at people who were mistrustful of EA"
(also "you cannot actually control who calls themselves an EA")

good to discover that blindspot and relations do seem to be thawing a bit

the poly thing seems completely unhelpful to me if people could stop insinuating demographics im part of are suspicious and predatory that'd be great thx

also: how common is the CEA/community health teams thing of "we will not take action on what you've said even if we're really disturbed by it unless you want us to"?