For years I have nursed a hatred of a former who traumatized me, and soon I will be in a position secure enough to freely say some really wrathful things to or about him.
I'm struggling to think of reasons why I shouldn't. I honestly haven't moved on and I can't really see that it's likely that I will.
My main hesitation is that I don't want to hear his response. I know that makes me a bad person but it's the truth.
Kantian reason: if everyone lashed out in wrath at the first safe opportunity, the world would be much worse. Conversely, if everyone kept their wrath under wraps, the world could be much better.
Augustinian reason: I am not yet really ready to fully become a wrathful person. A wrathful person is consigning himself to permanence, to stasis, to death at the hands of whatever inspired the rage. I am not yet done changing and possibly growing. I may yet get over this.
Emersonian reason: Every time I have felt truly hurt by someone, they were superior to me in some way. My job is to decide what way they were superior to me and to decide how I might grow in response.