It is much, much better to be sad / sorrowful / disappointed than to become psycho while avoiding those feelings.
Friend A: sad about the way she has been treated by the people closest to her -> gets her shit together and changes her station in life -> finds new people
Friend B: suicidal about her disappointment in her own status -> treats everyone around her like shit -> gets bailed out by her mom -> restarts life with a heavily curated social circle that support her delusions of grandeur
You really, really want to be Friend A
When I talk to Friend A, I can hear about her feelings. When I talk to Friend B, I am reduced to audience for her handful of new and exciting self-diagnoses and am supposed to be a clapping seal for her every self-destructive decision.
I don't talk to Friend B anymore.
