i guess i'm a conservative libertine when it comes to weird social norms (especially when it comes to sexuality?)
things are likely to work better when people have tried them a lot and there is community/accumulated wisdom
but people have tried a lot more things than you think
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RT @pawnofcthulhu
the problem with the claim 'rationalists/EAs don't care about social norms/skills' is that these things are ... relative to the cultura…
https://twitter.com/pawnofcthulhu/status/1623833754350522370
the one time i've seen the 'people being pressured into poly because it's the enlightened thing to do' failure mode the person responsible was a radfemmy friend who didn't really know other poly people.
similarly bdsm is great but you shouldn't be learning to do it from porn.