having experienced this from both sides, I firmly believe that subtle meta-conversational signaling goes a long way, even tho it feels dorky and overly formal
something like "I'm just rambling feel free to ignore" before a several minute rant on some technical minutia helps lots
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RT @selentelechia
speculation
for most people most of the time, explaining something in-depth is taken as a strong signal that someone is trying to ju…
https://twitter.com/selentelechia/status/1395831179090173952
but those who do tend to be either fellow autists or those used to dealing with our kind, and as such, just as likely to go on their own rant after I'm done, which works out quite well at a table, as we can then take turns eating silently w/o being rude, which is underappreciated
I'm awfully fond of going on very long tangents primarily for my own hyperverbal benefit, and don't want my companions to feel obligated to absorb, process, and respond to all of my wordvomit, especially considering how fast I speak. some don't believe me when I say it's fine