great piece from our boy Yarvin on the foibles of nerd society, its project to reinvent social norms & rituals, and the pitfalls of Ask/Tell Culture. not sure I necessarily agree w/ the trad conclusion but he does raise some good points on fundamentals
while not a particularly novel observation anymore, he notices here how nerd society has recreated parallels to trad rituals such as confession & communal meaning-making, even while nominally seeking to do away w/ the old; does this indicate that people crave such practices?
i've long felt similarly about the discussed nerd-society practices of (what I see as) forced intimacy, strategic boundary erosion, culty social dynamics. throws up real Chesterton-esque red flags for me; perhaps peoples natural psychic immune systems resistance to such, is good?
mb instead of speedrunning our way to connection, bypassing the typically-requisite intermediate stages due to our discomfort w/ ambiguity & social nuances, we should instead focus on improving our own skills? if you can only thrive in dysfunctional scenes, mb thats a you problem