great piece from our boy Yarvin on the foibles of nerd society, its project to reinvent social norms & rituals, and the pitfalls of Ask/Tell Culture. not sure I necessarily agree w/ the trad conclusion but he does raise some good points on fundamentals
mb instead of speedrunning our way to connection, bypassing the typically-requisite intermediate stages due to our discomfort w/ ambiguity & social nuances, we should instead focus on improving our own skills? if you can only thrive in dysfunctional scenes, mb thats a you problem