my ex wouldve loved this, being a militant ecofascist vegan; she actively judged unrepentant carnivores, which was ultimately an externalization of her own struggles w/ finding purpose in a flawed world. easier to take a hard line binary stance than to reckon with the discomfort
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interestingly enough were one to meet an SO off this app, I imagine they'd become much more likely to stay veg{an} for longer than they might have otherwise, feeling almost obligated to not change that aspect of their personality, it being such a centrally defining factor
generally, basing ones identity on some shallow self-aspect, like a transient interest, rather than a deeper-embedded one, such as one's attitude towards the world, is a recipe for disaster, certainly leading either to stagnation or worldview-collapse. this is a midlife crisis.
when such an aspect forms the foundation of a relationship, the consequences can be even worse, as there are more variables in play and hence more opportunity for degenerative feedback; when your crisis gets caught up with another's, well, neither of you is gunna have a good time
I've seen his happen w/ other relationships which started from some shared interest or experience; it becomes a symbol, a fetish of sorts, and becomes tangled up w/ many other aspects of the relationship, making it harder to rethink or change, a kind of calcified self concept.