the greatest gift you can give another is a home in your heart

we become more real when seen by others, less dependent on our own observation to maintain our existence; our identity anchored in tulpic nodes in those who know us

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Alice, similarly, has a little Bob-model, which she will then use to interpret his statement in the same manner as which he did hers; this is the cybernetics of communication, the structure of the iterated feedback loop by which two agents construct a pri…
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which is more "me", my physical body, my self-conception, or the me-egregore, the emergent social model of me comprised of the cumulative sum of the beliefs everyone who's ever met me holds?

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in these moments we channel our self-egregore, becoming avatars of a higher power than our mundane selves; we attain glimpses of a higher plane. we see our lives from a higher dimension, looking down from above, understanding how…
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in reality, We are each an emergence characterized by the interacting dynamics of these elements, varying in weight & changing in relative importance over time; some people are primarily driven by their biology, others by their self-concept, and others still by social perception

I often go thru periods of my life when I want to hide or run away, to escape the influence of that last element; I often resent the parts of me the causal chains of which are rooted outside my locus of control

being Observed locks those parts in place

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consensus reality is constructed intersubjectively thru continuous mutual observation; the ever-presence of surveillers ensures the wavefunction of the status quo can…
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and indeed, that is often desirable, both for social cohesion and personal; how can you make predictions regarding, and hence rely on, a person who keeps changing? this is a major part of why children are not beholden to many rules, and are excluded from certain spheres

His Dark Materials, one of my favorite book series, the (excellent) TV adaptation of which I'm currently watching, explores this theme through the frame of sin and agency; children are above the former because they are not fully in possession of the latter

they are less Real

childhood is a shielded zone, obscured by the fog of war; they need privacy & the latitude to explore identity space to figure out which configuration suits them best. those who "grow up too soon" are forced to commit to local maxima prior to having received this opportunity

this typically generates dissatisfaction stemming from the dissonance between their natures and the social role they've been locked into, held in place by the bonds of mutual observation

consider how judgemental people get when one of them goes thru a crisis & starts changing

often, we're left with a choice between social recognition and self-actualization; isn't it tragic that there's a tradeoff here to be made?

I can't fault those who choose the former, but that can lead to a life of quiet desperation

there is, however, a way to get both