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ok q for monogamous people who are like this because of 'jealousy'. suppose a close friend you've got a crush on (and has maybe expressed some interest in you) gets into a relationshuip with someone else. is this strictly worse than "jealousy" for you?
intuition pump is supposed to be like ... you aren't a bad person for being attracted/upset here but a mature person is expected to recognise there's a Good Thing going here whereas a less mature person might try to break up the relationship
ok i guess i ought to add a caveat for the "people in a monogamous relationship decide to open it up cos it's getting stale" situation (often goes poorly but idk if the relationship was going to survive anyway)
like my ITT says "it's worse because you don't get snuggles, it's better because something something stability is nice and it's better to have a partner you know people won't steal" but ime poly people don't go arouns stealing people's partners so I'm still confused