like my ITT says "it's worse because you don't get snuggles, it's better because something something stability is nice and it's better to have a partner you know people won't steal" but ime poly people don't go arouns stealing people's partners so I'm still confused
intuition pump is supposed to be like ... you aren't a bad person for being attracted/upset here but a mature person is expected to recognise there's a Good Thing going here whereas a less mature person might try to break up the relationship