problems with finding partners at an event dedicated to X: if you're interested in X independently of it being good to find partners there, the gender(/sex) ratio is (if you're heterosexual) likely not in your favour (unless you're odd, but few people are odd). furthermore, if you *do* ask someone out, you might get rejected & perceived (and gain a reputation as) creepy, or mistakenly (“mistakenly”) identified as a sex pest

(or, more lightly, as being there just to chase skirt/kilt). even if you don't care about your reputation at the event/in the group, you probably care about X, and that people do X, if you creep them out, they will stop doing X. (not success). (how do normal people handle interacting after one has romantically rejected the other? the ~2 times i have experienced it, it was always just __awkward__ and odd, is there no standard social script?

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when do you learn it?) if they do agree, you have another mess: others might still get jealous and call you a pest, with the standard hansonian dynamics voluminousifying, or leading to sliding into social bullshit; or there might be a less than optimal breakup that leads to one party not wanting to do X anymore. (not success). (this is furthermore worsened by the fact that you are probably not calibrated & smooth and can handle rejection well, or the other person can't handle rejecting well.

oh well). so. if you go to an event about X because the gender ratio is good and you don't really care about X, then it is probably immediately and super clear that you are being *very* incongruous, and it's, like, not a great move? it feels very much like not a great move. so, this is the tree of badness for asking people at hobby events.

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