... And I notice I have no idea how to escalate on a first date so a second date is in the cards bc it's either been first date - > my place or chodery or losing her after first date so far
@niplav Chin up, mate. The worst thing you can do is to get wrapped up in something that simply didn't happen. There's not a lot of insight you can glean in situations like this because a lot of factors are both out of your control and unknowable. In any event it's important to take it gently so that you're not going to miss other opportunities that will feel smoother and more natural.
@cosmiccitizen I'm just worried I'm not developing the virtue of patience
(in this case impatience paid off, but it's not character-building)
Ugh again