staring at a coworker's calendar where 1:1 meetings are labeled (m), (w), (bw) and at first I was like "😳 man..? woman..? black woman...!??!!??" until it fucking hit me that it's the frequency of the 1:1, i.e. "monthly", "weekly", "biweekly", etc
so yeah I'm a bit of a dumbass
in those few moments, I had flashbacks to back when I was job hunting and seeing UK job listings with desired gender(s) included in the title
a Schelling point for those who seek one