this interpretation (which I share) makes much more sense than the one we're supposed to use
which one makes more sense, really?
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RT @Aella_Girl
In general (but not always), i default interpret "I'm nonbinary" to mean "I don't like when people have gendered assumptions about me"
https://twitter.com/Aella_Girl/status/1382485262584799232
"I'm declaring my high likelihood of being a behavioral outlier, not nearly fitting into either bimodal behavioral space cluster, & forcing a cache miss"
or
"I'm making an ontological statement about the nature of sex/gender by saying mu, stepping outside of the label frame"
the indexing problem shows up here as well
gender as something you are (innate) vs something you do (performative) is a fraught topic, one even most progressives don't get
this is apparent when trans gender essentialists claim you can't change gender
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RT @pee_zombie
the most fundamental ideological conflict is btwn folders & tags; the ontological differences btwn hierarchical & associative indexing underlie every major object-leve…
https://twitter.com/pee_zombie/status/1377404570452680707
you can't have both; is gender innate, and dysphoria only resolvable by transition? or is it performative, and you could simply change your behavior?
same with sexual orientation; can you learn to be gay (performative) or are you born gay (innate)
nonbinaries reject this scheme
a big issue here is that many people have made their answer to this question a fundamental part of their identity (something they are), and hence cannot evaluate the arguments rationally, lest it prove to be less solid than they imagined (something they do)
I don't really have much of a point here besides to plant my flag firmly in the performative/learned camp. it doesn't make any sense to "not be a girl", it just doesn't parse. what you mean is "I see myself as not being someone who performs femininity predominantly"
both, really, if I'm being honest, but the former is MUCH more useful than the latter, & achieves the desired goals more neatly
vast majority of people (incl. most nonbinaries) don't have a clear conception of what it means to BE a gender
this stems from label/box confusion