the problem arises when someone believes (perhaps rightfully so) that the rules do not apply to them, especially when they can explain exactly why, correctly

broadcasting this will be perceived as a defection, as people don't like exceptions for others; it's seen as unfaire

either we all have to follow the rules (wink wink) or none of us do (nudge nudge)

this is a form of lying-to-children; you'd likely think twice before telling a teen it's sometimes worth the risk to take hard drugs or practice unsafe sex

same with not following social rules

took me a very long time to understand, & even when I had, to accept; I was an angry anti-authoritarian teen, stuck in a situation where I felt obligated to follow stupid rules for bad reasons; even when I could explain why I shouldn't, I was unheard. the pendulum swung hard.

in retrospect, I realize that many of my peers felt. similarly, but instead took the much better approach of feigning compliance to not be watched, and then do what they wanted anyway. my little autist self wanted to CONVINCE the adults of why my logic was sound.

I didn't even begin to realize that there were political and optical reasons why certain adults couldn't be seen to agree with me, even if they did; many institutions simply don't allow it. had I gone about this in a more tactical way, I likely could have garnered support. alas.

in reality, if you're not a child under the control of adults, there is very little reason to need anyone else to agree with you; if you have marketable skills, the vast majority of freedoms are accessible to you without anyone's permission. the trick is simply to not care.