ok q for monogamous people who are like this because of 'jealousy'. suppose a close friend you've got a crush on (and has maybe expressed some interest in you) gets into a relationshuip with someone else. is this strictly worse than "jealousy" for you?
like my ITT says "it's worse because you don't get snuggles, it's better because something something stability is nice and it's better to have a partner you know people won't steal" but ime poly people don't go arouns stealing people's partners so I'm still confused
intuition pump is supposed to be like ... you aren't a bad person for being attracted/upset here but a mature person is expected to recognise there's a Good Thing going here whereas a less mature person might try to break up the relationship
