the unfortunate thing is that mostly anyone this thread is describing will (quite intentionally) fail to understand why this behavior is (correctly) perceived as a threat, as to them, assuming pronouns is just as offensive as assuming a black person is a servant
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RT @ne0agent1c
what do I *get out of it*? I don't want to be your friend. leading off with your pronouns is like flashing a huge gun, telling me you keep it loaded and the s…
https://twitter.com/ne0agent1c/status/1419823712086503448
however, gender people start from a very different set of assumptions, namely that everyone is deeply interested in everyone else
this makes simple polite disinterest a much more heinous act than the other norm would consider it to be
how can this be reconciled?
it can't
the cultural chasm is just too great, and may just be inherently impossible to bridge due to its nature. polite Western society is built on principles of tolerant apathy; the default assumption is that no one gives enough of a fuck about anyone else to bother insulting them