the cultural chasm is just too great, and may just be inherently impossible to bridge due to its nature. polite Western society is built on principles of tolerant apathy; the default assumption is that no one gives enough of a fuck about anyone else to bother insulting them
however, gender people start from a very different set of assumptions, namely that everyone is deeply interested in everyone else
this makes simple polite disinterest a much more heinous act than the other norm would consider it to be
how can this be reconciled?
it can't