What advice would you have for someone who feels like they don't know what they truly care about (and indeed have suppressed it for many years and focused on what they're "supposed to" care about)?
@sadalsvvd this sounds like a nice, concrete way to do what some have recommended me to do ("only do stuff you really want to do"). very helpful! 💖
@tortle I list all my pains and then turn them inside out like socks.
@tortle I take a blank piece of printer paper, and I write down everything that's bugging me that I can think of.
I imagine each fixed and how that would feel.
This is what I care about.
Then I write one concrete step that I can take toward each of these pains being fixed. I don't have to figure out the whole solution, just the first step because I can only do one thing at a time.
@tortle For a considerably more involved and powerful process, you might enjoy Aidan Wachter's book "Weaving Fate",
@tortle self assessment is almost always aided heavily by listing everything and then whittling it down tbqh
@KanekoTheKoolio every what? every thought? of what i value? i think the whittling is the hard part :(
@tortle my general strategy is to slow down and detach myself from what I *perceive* myself to enjoy, or just the stuff I do just because. in that empty space I let desires arise and try not to judge or dismiss them, and play with them in my inner space until I feel motivated enough to try it out