What advice would you have for someone who feels like they don't know what they truly care about (and indeed have suppressed it for many years and focused on what they're "supposed to" care about)?

@tortle I list all my pains and then turn them inside out like socks.

@tortle I take a blank piece of printer paper, and I write down everything that's bugging me that I can think of.

I imagine each fixed and how that would feel.

This is what I care about.

Then I write one concrete step that I can take toward each of these pains being fixed. I don't have to figure out the whole solution, just the first step because I can only do one thing at a time.

@tortle For a considerably more involved and powerful process, you might enjoy Aidan Wachter's book "Weaving Fate",

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