2) depravity — he probably doesn't Respect Women©®™ much, so probably more down to do disrespectful things to me in bed, AND probably more likely to actually get off on them rather than doing them just for my sake (big meh). & probably into weird shit, which makes me feel better
3) there's honestly just SUCH an enjoyable energy & tension from mutually choosing to get along w/ someone when you both hate the other's opinions. when you both think the other has dogshit takes but love their company. idk how to explain it. also hatefucking is just so much FUN