this isn't particularly novel, as this concept maps to that of the superego, & a few others

just kind of wild to occasionally realize I hadn't "been" a certain person in a long time

this lends credence to the idea that our various selves are just conceptual activation patterns

how you're a different person at work, with various groups of friends, family, alone, etc

different subsets of your conceptual clusters are active in each situation

considering concepts & beliefs are the summations of memory chains, this makes sense, as memories are scoped

an embarrassing memory you only access in the presence of college friends is going to have a stronger effect on you when you're with them, versus when you're with people who never knew that version of you

our selves are comprised of relationships with models of other people

when a person is no longer really part of your life, it is not very useful to surface the self aspect embedded in your relationship with them

but if they come back into your life, this resurfaces, in the form of old dynamics

this is why family visits can be so difficult

I wonder sometimes, if I've ever met certain people's conscious, top level selves, or just their daily driver

how to tell which is the case? do first impressions tend to be formed from the latter? is the former only possible after a deeper connection emerges?

drugs affect this

when you meet/interact with someone early on with the involvement of certain types of drugs, you're meeting a very different version of them than their typical self

in certain situations, this can lead to your superegos meeting each other much earlier than would otherwise happen

I wonder if this effect influences the types of relationships that form in various venues, such as colleges and raves

also churches, which actively seek to encourage contemplation, which surfaces the superego, done properly

are we missing a cultural practice for this?