👁️ autosurveillant 👁️ @pee_zombie@schelling.pt

I have my own theories on why autism (seems to be/is) more prevalent nowadays, but that's another topic

the facts are that many of the behaviors we attribute to personality quirks are in fact attributable to being somewhere on the spectrum

and let's be real, many of us here are

to this day, autism tends to be seen as either a serious scary thing, in the case of those unfortunate low functioning individuals, or as the butt of a joke, in the case of online aspies

and its both! but there's also so much in between that's sort of hidden from view, ignored

ofc, my own issues are not just gender-based in nature, but also neurological, as this is what autism is, at the root; a neurofeedback pathology stemming from increased sensitivity and decreased regulation capabilities

I've seen similar patterns in others, even when they haven't

by leaning into the discomfort, letting one's self feel these things & allow those around you to see you feeling them, over time, the chasm can be bridged, the reciprocal support skills trained

mutual understanding between the genders is possible, contrary to how it often seems

some women seem to have little to no idea what to do with strong male emotion, especially when it's not directed at them, but rather internally; how to comfort the comforter?

this is understandable, but it leads to many interpersonal pathologies

as usual, the way out is through

we're expected to be stable, strong, secure, and able to provide a foundation and container for those around us, to support and provide for them, allowing them to have fewer concerns

I'm quite happy to fill this role, as I imagine many other men are

but we're not perfect

this is comparable to the differences in how men and women tend to process emotions, as well

many women seem to believe men just don't feel things very strongly, due to us not expressing these feelings

trust me, they're there all right, but the male gender role has obligations.

usually comparing it to their own episodes, where they get sensory overload & cry/panic/etc, works

I feel the same things, but handle it differently, due to my own priorities/capabilities

when you're typically rather collected, can be difficult for others to imagine you not so

there's always the initial hump to get over, where people simply don't believe me about my internal experiences in those moments, and that can be more alienating than many imagine I could be capable of feeling

even with other autists, convincing them of this has been difficult

naturally this has led to much avoidable & regrettable interpersonal strife

what others saw as me being rude & mean, I saw as me being considerate, to remain in operation even when it felt impossible, so as to not just shut down on them

discussing this misunderstanding helped

it took me a very long time to realize that this came off to others as being cold, hostile, angry

when subjectively I simply felt tired and desperately trying to keep the lights on, so to speak

better to be cold than unresponsive, was my thinking

my friends call this the robot

in this mode I'm less graceful, less willing to accommodate others, to give them the benefit of the doubt, to do the extra cognitive work to parse their ambiguous statements

then, I prefer simple direct precise communication & don't have the energy or wherewithal for quirkiness

I often feel this way when in a state I've learned to identify as "power-saving mode"

when, for whatever reason, synchronizing adequately enough w/ others so as to communicate my internal state feels borderline impossible

so I resort to a more scripted, flat affect presentation
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RT @pee_zombie
lowkey very annoyed to be required to verbalize my thoughts in order to share them

semantic legibilization is phenomenological violence
https://twitter.com/pee_zombie/status/1403765933865320453

lowkey very annoyed to be required to verbalize my thoughts in order to share them

semantic legibilization is phenomenological violence

it's mulberry season bitches and I know where all the trees in my hood are

damn mosquitos still exist? wack

new developments in ethics

you can only be bound by duties you explicitly agreed to

deontologists destroyed

get your goddamn RAINBOWS out of my work tools holy fuck

rust is haskell for people who can't read

quite literally my go-to conversation starter, really gets the juices flowing
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RT @eslewhere
no better banter at a party than telling people you don't ever want to die and watching people freak out
https://twitter.com/eslewhere/status/1403301652656914436