oh wizened tortle 🐢 @tortle@schelling.pt

@bonkydog say more?

@KanekoTheKoolio every what? every thought? of what i value? i think the whittling is the hard part :(

@phil__harmonic @sadalsvvd @matbegray@stoat.zone it's telling me i don't have permission to view this page. am i doing something wrong?

(don't worry I will probably not do this)

(...unless...)

Not eating all day until dinner so I can look/feel hot at my farewell party

What, to you, is the difference between fun and meaningful?

What advice would you have for someone who feels like they don't know what they truly care about (and indeed have suppressed it for many years and focused on what they're "supposed to" care about)?

@profoundish I think it'll take Twitter blowing up pretty bad before this really becomes The Place To Be, but it's good to have the back-up.

The sexual tension between wanting to post unhinged shit because none of my mutuals are here and wanting to not scare off people from mastodon

@sadalsvvd do it!!

Ok alright alright one more to get this more precise.

"What % of people do you think you'd be able to be friends WITHOUT being forced to spend time together, BUT finding time to catch up were trivial?"

"Finding time trivial" = you don't need to sacrifice existing friendships

I've told twitter that I'm not interested in so many things on my For You page that it's just showing me lots of my own tweets.

A bit passive-aggressive but point taken, algorithm.

Tortle: Good news! I've packed everything away for my move. No need to be anxious any more 😇.
Reality: The move happening in five days?
T: Yes!
R: So you're just not going to use anything for five days?
T:
R:
T:
R:
T: I haven't packed the Queal and laptop yet?

It's also made me more excited about (one day) being a parent. Being parent feels (amongst many other things) like a cool, unique experience, and this was a cool experience I got without even having my own child!

But now it's often a mixture of me and my nephew. And it's easier to transfer feelings of love to me when we're so similar.

Another win for evolution for making me care so much about my genes in another person.

I also can more easily access re-parenting-style strategies, e.g. when I'm doing IFS work. Part of my brain always struggled to treat my exile with the love it needed, because the exile was *me*. Or it was "generic child 3".

One thing I'm surprised by after spending time with my nephew is how it's changed how I relate to myself and others.

I have a much clearer idea of what it means to love someone just as they are, not because of the value they produce.